About six years ago, when I was preparing to be an intern and plowing through some of the recommended reading, I read this: “If you take the blame when someone doesn’t turn out well, you’ll also be the first to take the credit when they do.”
In the chapter that follows, the writer went on to say: “I always had defined success by whether the teenagers I was working with were changing for the better. This definition has at least two inherent flaws, however. The first is that it assumes we somehow have the power to change young people. The second lies in the assumption that we can determine when and if real change has happened in a young person.”
Sometimes you need to be reminded Who does the changing.
Book referenced (and an excellent read, by the way):
At-Risk: Bringing Hope to Hurting Teenagers by Dr. Scott Larson